My new collection is out!

My newest collection is available on the website now, and I’m really pleased with how it looks. It’s a mix of abstract floral, tribal and ethnic prints, on slightly more structured pieces. It looks like a cohesive collection, which I absolutely love.

It took a lot of energy and time to get this one out. There were a few dramas here and there, mainly with sourcing fabrics and how long my orders took to arrive, and that meant that my collection was released a lot later than I had hoped. But I’ve decided to accept that Seraphim’s timing will always be slightly off, and I think that actually works in my favour. Most of the other indie labels release their new collections about a month or two before mine (note: on time), which means by the time my collection is unveiled, their collections aren’t quite so fresh anymore. I’m hoping that by being late, I’m filling a gap wherein customers are looking for new pieces but can’t find them. Fingers crossed that’s what’s happening.

Melbourne has inadvertently changed my tastes. I used to be all into so many more flowy pieces and clashing prints, but the fashion over here is so… metropolitan and it’s affected my style. Fashion in Melbourne feels much more deliberate, whereas fashion in Perth is more instinctive. I don’t know – maybe that’s just my take on it.

I miss my old style. I need to be able to mix both styles together to create something uniquely Seraphim. Maybe I need to think less about the process and follow my instincts.

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I’ve been thinking a lot about love lately.

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I finally understand all that stuff people say to you about how your relationships are a choice you make every single day. This cannot be truer than your relationship with your romantic partner.

Sure, maybe it doesn’t feel like a choice at the beginning, when things are going so well and you can’t imagine ever breaking up. Your partner’s indecisiveness is still endearing; your daily “What do you want for dinner tonight?” dialogue is still super cute because he’s just the most adorable thing in the world (and you’re happy to let him choose something you’re not in the mood for because love already tastes so sweet!). His constant hogging of the bed still doesn’t bother you and you just want to bite him because you feel such violent affection for him.

I get it. I feel that way about my new partner. But – even with all the joy and butterflies in my stomach – it has also been a major adjustment for me.

Having a partner means never going on new dates… potentially, ever again.

I know that sounds like a really insignificant thing considering the upside to shutting down all my dating profiles is actually being loved by someone, and I agree, it’s so wonderful, but it has also turned my daily routine upside down. It feels like I have so much more time, because I’m not spending so much of my day checking messages on the long list of dating sites and apps I frequented.

I’m not going to lie- I really do miss it. I miss reading messages by men who find me attractive and are trying to get my attention. I miss getting to know someone. I miss the thrill of being chased.

This is probably a super weird thing to admit, considering I’ve been with this new boy for a total of 111 days. Our relationship is still fresh, exciting and new, and don’t worry – I am still constantly overcome with feelings of wanting to skin him so that I can wear him around me when he has to go to work (he finds that adorable – don’t worry).

The thing is, before him, I spent a good three years on the internet, trawling for male friends, one-night-stands, and lovers. I even chose love relationships that would allow me to keep doing this, with rather disastrous results – let’s be honest. I think my dumb excuse for this was to keep my options open just in case someone better came along. I know – dumb. And really really mean.

But here’s the point. Do I choose to stay with the boy even though I miss all of that?

Yes. Wholeheartedly. Without a doubt. 

Why? Because he isn’t some idealistic Disney (or Marvel) version of a significant other that doesn’t exist. He’s a real person with a balanced mix of strengths and weaknesses. Also, because we complement each other. He and I are compatible in so many ways it’s uncanny. Both our usernames end with “tron”. Wut.
He is quiet when I am loud, he is steadfast when I am erratic, he is logical when I am a blubbering mess of feelings. He is thoughtful and funny. He is so crazy and silly when we’re behind closed doors and I love that. It’s like a private joke that only we understand.

And, most of all, because I’m actually taking the passionate love out of the equation, and thinking about things more practically. The butterflies are great and all, but I want mutual love and respect once those butterflies are gone. I want to know that there will be loyalty, partnership and a greater sense of belonging that moves beyond the intense love you feel at the beginning.

Why do so many people give up – not when things get difficult – but when that intense feeling of passion has faded? The person by your side is fundamentally the same person as before but your rose coloured glasses are suddenly gone and it’s their fault that they bore you now?

Did you not realise you had a choice in how you felt about your partner?

I don’t believe that you wake up one day to the realisation that you’ve stopped loving your significant other. That just doesn’t happen. Things get in the way – sure, but your complacency is to blame for that fire being snuffed out.

I can’t say that S will be the person I spend the rest of my life with, but I’m at least happy to have met him during a time in which my feelings are much more in check. I am able to shake off the sadness or doubt much faster than ever before. While looking back at my past, I’ve been brutally honest with myself about the part I played in each failed relationship. It was an eye-opening experience which left me really humbled, because I realised I was more responsible than I originally thought. This has greatly helped me to not only become a better partner to S, but a better friend, and human being.

Is this what it feels like to be in a proper grown up relationship? All I can say is that I’m looking forward to our first real fight or problem, so that we can grow up as individuals as well as grow together as a couple.

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Who doesn’t love a MARVEL crop?

MARVEL tshirt from Kmart
MARVEL tshirt from Kmart

Did you guys know that I’m a total Avengers fan? Hot dudes, serious ass-kicking, humour, adventure and Joss Whedon’s writing and directing. I mean, what’s not to love?

I found this t-shirt in the menswear section of Kmart and just had to take it home for another Mod post. So here it is, flat on my bed. All you need is a pair of scissors for this one! Don’t you just love an easy mod?

My main tip when it comes to cropping tees is to always remember that us fat ladies have extra padding (duh) – not to mention boobs, which means things tend to shorten without you having to cut much off. MEASURE! Or if you’re like me and constantly lose your measuring tape, cut a little bit off at a time. I have wasted many a tee by getting too cocky and cutting too much off because I’ve been lazy. Don’t be lazy, friends! This mod is already so quick anyway, so no cutting corners… so to speak.

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First off, I cut about 10cm off the bottom. I tried it on, and I found that it was still way too long. I ended up cutting off almost another 10cm and had to cut off half of the “MARVEL” logo, which doesn’t really bother me because the image of the Avengers is more important!

Take your time! Mistakes on the neckline will be visible!
Take your time! Mistakes on the neckline will be visible!

Then I flipped the t-shirt upside down and starting working on the neck. Without using a tape measure or ruler, I estimated 7cm from the shoulder seam and started to cut a wider neck – making sure to take my time so the cut would be neat.

FINISHED!
FINISHED!

I was going to cut the sleeves too, but they ended up being a perfect length for me.

AVENGERS, ASSEMBLE!
AVENGERS, ASSEMBLE!

Have you guys been doing any mods lately? Leave your links in the comments below! xox

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How to clean your make up brushes

Oh my God, you guys. You will not believe how lazy I’ve been with cleaning my brushes. In fact, I can’t remember the last time I did it before I made this how-to guide.

Please judge me. I’m judging me.

A lot of companies will try to sucker you into buying special brush cleaning soaps but there’s a much cheaper option for you and it works just as well – use any shampoo you have on hand!

Things you will need:
1. A bowl,
2. Shampoo,
3. A hand towel
4. A tap that runs hot water

1. Give your brush a rinse under warm water. Rub the bristles with your fingers to loosen up all that caked-on makeup.

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2. Fill your bowl with some hot water and add some shampoo.

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3. Swish your brush into the solution until the water goes cloudy. Empty the bowl and refill, also re-adding the shampoo. Continue cleaning your brushes this way until the water stays clear.

Replace dirty water with clean hot water and repeat.

4. Rinse your brushes to wash away excess shampoo.

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4. Lay your brushes down on the hand towel to dry.

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And there you go! Because it’s so cold, my brushes took far too long to dry so I gave them a blast with my hairdryer. The bristles are so soft now, and my face feels less oily throughout the day.

How often do you guys clean your brushes?

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Things to do when you forget that FAT DOES NOT = UGLY

Are you self-hating right now? Here are some ways to remember how beautiful you are!
Are you self-hating right now? Here’s some ways to remember how beautiful you are!

We’ve all had those days. You get on the scale one morning and realise you’ve put on two kilos, or you wear a dress that fit perfectly on you two months before but now it’s tight around the belly. Sometimes, the self-hate isn’t even the result of weight gain! Sometimes, you just look at yourself in the mirror and start to believe the bullshit you read in articles on the internet.

It fucking sucks, and it’s always hard to pick yourself up when we as a society are told that our worth is in direct correlation with our dress size.

I’ve come up with a list to cheer us up because – really, we deserve to be happy no matter what, right? We have the right to love ourselves NO. MATTER. WHAT.

1. Forgive yourself.

Look in the mirror and tell your reflection that everything will be alright. Look right into your eyes and say, “I forgive myself. I forgive my body. My body is an amazing vessel that houses an amazing soul and no amount of weight gain or self-hate will change that.”

2. Have a luxurious bath or shower.

Pamper yourself and have a long luxurious bath or shower! Buy the good shit, yo.
Pamper yourself and have a long luxurious bath or shower! Buy the good shit, yo.

Go to your favourite spa/beauty store and purchase a few things to give yourself a serious pampering session. We are all very quick to buy clothes, shoes and handbags to make ourselves feel happier, but what about spoiling your body with beautiful lotions and soaps? Your mind and body have been through enough self-abuse and it’s time to get right by spoiling yourself. Light some candles! Bring a really great trashy novel!
I recommend Lush’s Ceridwen’s Cauldron Bath Melt and Rose Bombshell Bath Bomb if you’re into baths. If you’re like me and prefer to have long showers, go for Buffy Body Butter to scrub, Dreamwash Shower Smoothie to lather up, and then finish off with Ro’s Argan Body Conditioner.

3. Listen to some empowering music.

Hide under the blankets, dance around your bedroom or take a long drive somewhere. Whatever you choose to do, do it while listening to some songs that rev you up. Listen to them loud and sing along! It doesn’t really matter what the songs are about; as long as you find yourself perking up as the first few bars play. You know that feeling when your favourite song comes on the radio and you just have to turn it up? Those are the songs you need to look for. Music is an incredible mood enhancer. What you listen to can greatly affect you!

Some of my faves to listen to when I’m in a rut:
Backfire – MuteMath
Show Me Lights – Friendly Fires
Paper Doll – John Mayer
Time To Pretend – MGMT
Slow Down – Lights
Rest of My Life – Ludacris, Usher + David Guetta
In Your Eyes – Peter Gabriel
Waiting For The End – Linkin Park
Not On Drugs – Tove Lo
Everything Changes – Take That
Kiss of Life – Friendly Fires
Let The Sun Shine – Labrinth
Flashback – Calvin Harris
Blood Pressure – MuteMath
Izzo / In The End – Linkin Park + Jay-Z
Spiritus – Lisa Mitchell
Clarity – John Mayer
A Luta Continua! – MarchFourth Marching Band
Valerie – Mark Ronson + Amy Winehouse

4. Take yourself out on a date.

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Take yourself out on a solo date. The NGV, perhaps?

Last time I went on a solo adventure, I ventured into the National Gallery of Victoria to view the “A Golden Age of China” exhibit, which was absolutely magnificent. I walked around the gallery quietly, keeping my phone in my handbag so I wouldn’t be distracted or feel the need to take photographs to post on instagram. This adventure was all mine and I selfishly didn’t want to share it with anyone!
After walking through the exhibition, I went to the Tea Room and had afternoon tea. I was seated next to an elderly woman who had also ventured into town alone, and we sat there talking about the exhibits and our lives. She told me about how her husband and love of her life had passed away two years and three months ago and she kept herself busy by going to the opera and checking out exhibits at the Melbourne Museum and NGV. She was a fascinating woman – someone I never would have met had I not decided to just spend some time away from everyone I knew.

Go. Check out some touristy spots you haven’t visited in a while. Check out the national art gallery in your city. See everything with a fresh pair of eyes. Just go do something all by yourself!

5. Listen to your body and what it really wants to eat.

I am an emotional eater, and sometimes I forget that my body is not the one wanting that large popcorn chicken meal from KFC.
Sometimes it’s my sadness or my boredom. On occasion, eating that KFC meal leaves you feeling utterly satisfied, but other times, as soon as all that food is gone, you are left with some major self-loathing for dessert.
This is not about dieting; this is not about creating a complicated relationship with food. This is about learning to understand what your body is trying to tell you. Listen – really listen – to what your body wants. If you know that you could seriously do with some deliciously decadent mudcake, go to town on that thing guilt-free! But if you’re craving a smoothie packed with fresh fruits, don’t do your body a disservice and give it the mudcake! Sometimes, spoiling your body isn’t giving it something naughty!

6. Dress UP.

Get dolled up for no goddamned reason!
Get dolled up for no goddamned reason!

My friends know when I’m having an ugly day – I get overly dressed up. I wear a full face of makeup, my blingiest chandelier earrings, curl my hair and wear an outfit that is more fitting for a night out on the town than for the cafe around the corner, but I’m not going to lie… knowing I’ve put effort into how I look and having my girlfriends tell me I look nice makes me feel better about myself. My friends are my harshest critics, so when they tell me I’m looking good, I know I’m really looking good.

7. Go for a walk.

Put on some comfy shoes, grab your iPod and take yourself out to a park. I’m not really talking about exercise here – although we all know that exercise is a brilliant way to release endorphins to make you feel a million times better. I’m talking about just reconnecting with your body. As you walk, be completely aware of how your knees bend and your thighs and calves flex to move you forward. Focus on your hips and pelvis that help to make you walk with a great deal of fluidity. Notice your breathing! Have you ever actually had a moment where you’ve gone, “Holy shit! I am a walking, breathing, living entity! I can walk, talk, laugh… have amazing sex!”
When you think about what it takes to get your body moving, it’s practically impossible not to realise how amazing our bodies are.

8. Remember this kick-ass quote!

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Be pretty if you want, and do it for only you!

 

Bathtub image courtesy of iconicgloryy.tumblr.com

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