My new collection is out!

My newest collection is available on the website now, and I’m really pleased with how it looks. It’s a mix of abstract floral, tribal and ethnic prints, on slightly more structured pieces. It looks like a cohesive collection, which I absolutely love.

It took a lot of energy and time to get this one out. There were a few dramas here and there, mainly with sourcing fabrics and how long my orders took to arrive, and that meant that my collection was released a lot later than I had hoped. But I’ve decided to accept that Seraphim’s timing will always be slightly off, and I think that actually works in my favour. Most of the other indie labels release their new collections about a month or two before mine (note: on time), which means by the time my collection is unveiled, their collections aren’t quite so fresh anymore. I’m hoping that by being late, I’m filling a gap wherein customers are looking for new pieces but can’t find them. Fingers crossed that’s what’s happening.

Melbourne has inadvertently changed my tastes. I used to be all into so many more flowy pieces and clashing prints, but the fashion over here is so… metropolitan and it’s affected my style. Fashion in Melbourne feels much more deliberate, whereas fashion in Perth is more instinctive. I don’t know – maybe that’s just my take on it.

I miss my old style. I need to be able to mix both styles together to create something uniquely Seraphim. Maybe I need to think less about the process and follow my instincts.

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New Apartment!

BedroomsCollage-02_zps65fcf122So guess what, beautiful people! I have just signed a lease for a beautiful little apartment! I am so stoked; this is my first actual place ever! I’ve been very lucky to live alone while still being in the safety of my parents’ house since they always lived in a different country. But this time, this place is all mine. I’ve been spending my days trawling Pinterest and Google for ideas for how to decorate my new place and I am getting so overwhelmed! I have to buy literally everything for it, and being so new to Melbourne, I don’t know where all the good (but cheap) 2nd hand stores are.

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I’m trying to stay positive about how overwhelming all of this is. It’s an amazing opportunity, and I am so thankful that I was approved to spend a year in this beautiful unit. I can’t wait to show you pictures as I slowly decorate a space and make it completely mine.

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Tips for not going mental in a new city from someone dealing with the New City Blues.

Today, I dropped off two of my best friends from Perth back to the airport so that they could fly home and, all of a sudden, I was hit with the New City Blues. Hard.

I got back to my house, closed the door to my bedroom and flopped on my bed, wondering how on earth I was actually going to make it here in Melbourne. Whenever I have a quiet moment to think, Perth pops into my head. I mean, I seriously feel like re-uprooting myself and flying back home. In fact, the only thing that’s keeping me from doing that right now is the disappointment I would inevitably feel for not really giving Melbourne a go.

So how do I give this place a real chance then? Well, I’ve been doing my research about that very topic this evening while listening to sad Death Cab for Cutie songs and this is a list I have come up with.

1. Take a moment every day to just revel in how courageous you are for making the move.

Seriously, pat yourself on the back. You could have stayed, even though you knew you had outgrown your home city. You could have ignored that feeling in your gut that was telling you how stifled you were feeling; how you felt like you needed to leave so you could continue on with your personal growth. No one would have blamed you if you did stay.

But you did it! You moved! You moved away from the arms of amazing friends and a comfortable life in the hopes of bettering your life. Remember this! What a brave move!

2. Do not lose touch with the people from home.

These people helped shape you into the person you are today. They had a hand in your bravery! Always be thankful for them and make sure you send them a quick text or phone call once a week to let them know you’re thinking about them.

Also, remember that you are not the only person who is struggling. They have just lost a great friend! Make sure they know you love them, miss them, and are so thankful for their support.

3. Give yourself permission to break down into a big fat snot-faced mess of tears.

If you need to spend a day in bed crying about how you miss the sight of the pelicans that perch on the streetlights on Canning Bridge, do it. Text your friends and tell them you’re sad. Skype with your family. Look at pictures of life back at home. Let yourself really grieve for the life you left behind.

And then get up and get on with it.

4. Learn to love your own company.

Of course it’s imperative for you to meet people. You need to create connections, but you also need to enjoy solo time. Why would someone want to befriend you if you can’t stand your own company? Spend time alone at a cafe or gallery. Learn this city alone. Create experiences of your new city all by yourself. They will be only yours, and there’s something really precious about that.

5. Find local anchoring points and branch out.

I’ve discovered a few restaurants and cafes that I already love to frequent and use these spots as pin points on a map I have in my brain. Then I’ll ask the staff for recommendations of other nearby places to check out. Always try places the locals tell you about – sometimes that dive bar around the corner is better than the five star tourist attraction on Urbanspoon.

This works with your group of friends too. Ask friends from back home to introduce you to anyone they may know in the same city as you and go and meet up with them.  Your connections don’t have to always be deep and meaningful ones. You may only meet them once a month for a quick coffee. But what if that friend brought another friend to the coffee date or invited you to a dinner they were having at their place? Branching out in this way may lead you to your new bestie!

6. Lower your expectations when it comes to new friends/acquaintances.

Continuing on from my last point… be realistic about the fact that it could take you a really long time to make that new best friend. My friend Div, who moved from Perth to Adelaide to Sydney said it best. “It will take you two years to build solid friendships. Until then, you will meet nice enough people who will do. Be patient because it will take a while, but it will be worth it.”

I think it’s important to also lower your expectations and to accept friendships from people you’re not fully interested in being super close with. There is nothing wrong with having some friends that you see only once a month. If you have a few of those people in your life, you could plan to meet Person 1 in week 1, Person 2 in week 2, etc. That’s one day a week down! All you have to do is fill up the other 6 days!

7. Accept as many invitations as possible.

I am very good at Number 4. I love solo adventures, but I am also prone to those bouts of sadness at 10pm on a Saturday night when everyone is out at a party to which I was also invited but was too lazy to attend, and now regret not going because I’m lonely and want to be around people but it’s a little bit too late to get ready and go at the last minute (this girl needs a lot of time to get ready, ok?).

Seriously, just go out. Click on the “going” button on Facebook event invites and actually go. All you have to lose is time alone and sleep. You can always catch up on both the next day. All you have to gain is an amazing night out and perhaps an amazing new connection.

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Righto. Those are the ones that I have experienced so far. Have you guys moved? If so, what are some of your tips for not going mental in a new city?

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We’re rebooting. This may as well be Post #1.

Hi I’m Jen and this is probably my 50th blog. I should point out that I said ‘blog’ – not ‘blog post’.

Yes, I’ve had a crap tonne of blogs.

My first ever blogging experience was on a website called MyDearDiary in 2002. Back then, we didn’t have our own website addresses or custom blog pages like on wordpress, blogger, or tumblr. Every blog had the exact same theme which meant we couldn’t use the razzle-dazzle of a fancy layout to lure readers in – we had to focus solely on writing interesting and entertaining entries.

From MDD, there were a plethora (see: ‘crap tonne’) of other websites; I suffer from a terrible affliction known as “startingoveritis”. I’ve tried so many that I honestly can’t remember more than half of them.

The main point of this is to explain that I really really really really really love blogging. I love sharing short stories, thoughts and feelings (seriously – feelings are my forte. I can explain the feels all day long). I think my main problem, though, is that contemporary blogging isn’t just about journaling like it was back in early 2000 anymore. Now, each entry is a mini essay that has to have a point. People aren’t just interested in learning about your day unless you have an actual point to make – a point that pertains to them.

Therein lies my problem.

Sometimes my journal entries don’t have a point. Sometimes, I just want to journal how I feel. Also, sometimes, I want to journal just 3 lines of text – not an entire goddamned mini essay… and although we should all blog for the pleasure, we also want our entries to be read and commented on, right? Sometimes, I feel like my 3-line entries have more depth in them than a 300 word entry, and it can be a little disheartening when no one comments.

I’m not quite sure where I’m going with this, so I’ll just say, “Hi. I’m Jennifer and I want to start blogging again. I’m 33, Eurasian, single, fat and have recently relocated from Perth to Melbourne. I also own a mini plus sized clothing label called Seraphim that caters to women sized 16 to 26. These are all the things I want to blog about. Interested?”

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