September 2014. What a terrible month. September 2014 will always be known as the month I almost lost my dad once, but could have lost my dad twice.
I won’t get into the specifics of it because it is a family issue, but let me just say this:
1. To locals and expats alike who go to Singapore thinking they will get better medical care there than in Indonesia: well, that doesn’t always happen. My father is a prime example.
2. ALWAYS ALWAYS ask for options and if there is time (if it’s not an emergency) ALWAYS ask for a second opinion. My dad was only given one option and – due to the nature of the emergency – didn’t have time to get advice from a different medical professional.
My dad isn’t 100 percent healed yet and we honestly have no idea whether he could have another attack tomorrow or if he will be fine for another 25 years. It’s the waiting that tortures you. So my third and most important piece of advice:
Love your parents with all you have. Cherish them and spend as much time as you can with them because, as I learned this month, they can be taken from you in the blink of an eye.