Gumtree, I love you.
New couch? All Sorted! Fuck yeah!
But I’m not done yet.
New digs, wonderful.
Even empty, you are home.
You make me happy.
Gumtree, I love you.
New couch? All Sorted! Fuck yeah!
But I’m not done yet.
New digs, wonderful.
Even empty, you are home.
You make me happy.
So guess what, beautiful people! I have just signed a lease for a beautiful little apartment! I am so stoked; this is my first actual place ever! I’ve been very lucky to live alone while still being in the safety of my parents’ house since they always lived in a different country. But this time, this place is all mine. I’ve been spending my days trawling Pinterest and Google for ideas for how to decorate my new place and I am getting so overwhelmed! I have to buy literally everything for it, and being so new to Melbourne, I don’t know where all the good (but cheap) 2nd hand stores are.
I’m trying to stay positive about how overwhelming all of this is. It’s an amazing opportunity, and I am so thankful that I was approved to spend a year in this beautiful unit. I can’t wait to show you pictures as I slowly decorate a space and make it completely mine.
Last Thursday, I woke up feeling absolutely terrible. I was disappointed in myself for not having a job. I couldn’t believe that after being in Melbourne for over 4 months I still hadn’t found anything.
From there, I started thinking about my other shortcomings and I could tell I was going to spiral if I didn’t nip it in the bud.
I shook off that negativity and made a plan for the day, because there is nothing worse than someone who can make things better for themselves but chooses not to. I closed my eyes to think positive thoughts. I suddenly remembered that it wasn’t that I was getting knocked back from job opportunities – it was that I wasn’t even applying for them in the first place. I mean, hello!
Thinking more positively helped me recall how I applied for a job at a very reputable retail company only a month or so before and they were interested in hiring me straight away, but I couldn’t taking the position due to scheduling conflicts. That was a hiccup, of course, but it still proved I had skills people were very interested in. I had to see the good in that!
I printed out a stack of resumes, got dolled up in a hot business-casual outfit and headed out to the nearest shopping centre to start handing them out. I walked in with major positive vibes and headed straight to a particular shop that I’ve been dreaming of working at since I first got to Melbourne, and guess what! They said they were looking for new staff and asked for an interview the very next day! I mean, how amazing is that?? The first shop I stopped at offered me an interview!
Long story short… I have a trial shift this Wednesday!
Now, I’m not going to say that this opportunity was bestowed upon me by a magical unicorn of positivity because of my own optimism, but I do think that I could have missed out on this opportunity had I just stayed in bed feeling like there was nothing I could do about it. Sometimes, your sadness can be solved. Sometimes, an overwhelming problem can be made a little bit easier by writing down a step-by-step plan of attack.
Since I’m quite new to this whole blogging thing (not really… but I am most certainly rusty) I’ve realised I’m not good at compartmentalising my different pursuits.
When I’m focused on Seraphim – my clothing company – I find it very hard to continue on with other things that need my focus as well, like this blog.
I’m still here though. I’m still thinking about what I should write; still wondering how professional bloggers continually have interesting things to write about.
I’ve never been amazing at thinking ahead. Strategic blogging is something I’m definitely not used to. But I’m learning. SLOWLY.
Where have I been? Traveling. My travel route was Melbourne – Perth – Jakarta – Bali – Jakarta – Perth – Melbourne. In less than a month! The thought of getting on another plane makes me shudder.
What was I doing in all these places? Work, mainly. Jakarta for fabrics and Bali to meet with my manufacturer.
Buying fabric at Mayestik in Jakarta proved to be a little disappointing. There weren’t many prints that got me excited, unfortunately. I’m glad that the designs for my very late winter collection look great in basic colours. My amazing manufacturers found some lovely prints in Bali, like this beautiful print that will be turned into a cropped jacket.
And we’re also experimenting with thicker fabrics – something I’ve never done before. Perth winters are so mild that I’ve been fine wearing chiffon with just a thickish cardigan. But Melbourne – Jesus Christ. Melbourne’s a whole other story. We’ve had to spend a bit of time looking at how thicker material drapes in order to make sure it looks great on plus sized bodies. It’s all been very eye-opening.
I’m back in Melbourne now. It’s both a relief and a shame that I’m back here. I miss my friends and my family, but I’m also excited about getting to know Melbourne more and more.
Check out this really cool shirt I found at Kmart the other day! I loooove denim shirts, but I’ve never found one that has fitted my awkward body shape, since I’m significantly smaller on top than around my belly. I really love the shade of blue this shirt is, though, so I decided to see if I could mod it out by turning it into a super cute Daisy Duke-esque cropped shirt with a tie front.
So the first thing I did was try on the shirt and figure out how short I wanted it to be by counting the buttons. I found that I wanted to cut the shirt between the fifth and sixth buttons.
Now, since this shirt has ties at the front, I decided to cut from the back towards the buttons, and then – when I was about three inches away from the buttons – I curved the cutting towards the bottom of the shirt.
After creating the ties, unfold your shirt. You’ll find that you have a strange flap at the back that looks identical to the ties at the front because of how you folded the shirt in half. Don’t worry – just cut that straight across.
Did you guys know that I’m a total Avengers fan? Hot dudes, serious ass-kicking, humour, adventure and Joss Whedon’s writing and directing. I mean, what’s not to love?
I found this t-shirt in the menswear section of Kmart and just had to take it home for another Mod post. So here it is, flat on my bed. All you need is a pair of scissors for this one! Don’t you just love an easy mod?
My main tip when it comes to cropping tees is to always remember that us fat ladies have extra padding (duh) – not to mention boobs, which means things tend to shorten without you having to cut much off. MEASURE! Or if you’re like me and constantly lose your measuring tape, cut a little bit off at a time. I have wasted many a tee by getting too cocky and cutting too much off because I’ve been lazy. Don’t be lazy, friends! This mod is already so quick anyway, so no cutting corners… so to speak.
First off, I cut about 10cm off the bottom. I tried it on, and I found that it was still way too long. I ended up cutting off almost another 10cm and had to cut off half of the “MARVEL” logo, which doesn’t really bother me because the image of the Avengers is more important!
Then I flipped the t-shirt upside down and starting working on the neck. Without using a tape measure or ruler, I estimated 7cm from the shoulder seam and started to cut a wider neck – making sure to take my time so the cut would be neat.
I was going to cut the sleeves too, but they ended up being a perfect length for me.
Have you guys been doing any mods lately? Leave your links in the comments below! xox
Oh my God, you guys. You will not believe how lazy I’ve been with cleaning my brushes. In fact, I can’t remember the last time I did it before I made this how-to guide.
Please judge me. I’m judging me.
A lot of companies will try to sucker you into buying special brush cleaning soaps but there’s a much cheaper option for you and it works just as well – use any shampoo you have on hand!
Things you will need:
1. A bowl,
3. A hand towel
4. A tap that runs hot water
And there you go! Because it’s so cold, my brushes took far too long to dry so I gave them a blast with my hairdryer. The bristles are so soft now, and my face feels less oily throughout the day.
How often do you guys clean your brushes?
We’ve all had those days. You get on the scale one morning and realise you’ve put on two kilos, or you wear a dress that fit perfectly on you two months before but now it’s tight around the belly. Sometimes, the self-hate isn’t even the result of weight gain! Sometimes, you just look at yourself in the mirror and start to believe the bullshit you read in articles on the internet.
It fucking sucks, and it’s always hard to pick yourself up when we as a society are told that our worth is in direct correlation with our dress size.
I’ve come up with a list to cheer us up because – really, we deserve to be happy no matter what, right? We have the right to love ourselves NO. MATTER. WHAT.
Look in the mirror and tell your reflection that everything will be alright. Look right into your eyes and say, “I forgive myself. I forgive my body. My body is an amazing vessel that houses an amazing soul and no amount of weight gain or self-hate will change that.”
Go to your favourite spa/beauty store and purchase a few things to give yourself a serious pampering session. We are all very quick to buy clothes, shoes and handbags to make ourselves feel happier, but what about spoiling your body with beautiful lotions and soaps? Your mind and body have been through enough self-abuse and it’s time to get right by spoiling yourself. Light some candles! Bring a really great trashy novel!
I recommend Lush’s Ceridwen’s Cauldron Bath Melt and Rose Bombshell Bath Bomb if you’re into baths. If you’re like me and prefer to have long showers, go for Buffy Body Butter to scrub, Dreamwash Shower Smoothie to lather up, and then finish off with Ro’s Argan Body Conditioner.
Hide under the blankets, dance around your bedroom or take a long drive somewhere. Whatever you choose to do, do it while listening to some songs that rev you up. Listen to them loud and sing along! It doesn’t really matter what the songs are about; as long as you find yourself perking up as the first few bars play. You know that feeling when your favourite song comes on the radio and you just have to turn it up? Those are the songs you need to look for. Music is an incredible mood enhancer. What you listen to can greatly affect you!
Some of my faves to listen to when I’m in a rut:
Backfire – MuteMath
Show Me Lights – Friendly Fires
Paper Doll – John Mayer
Time To Pretend – MGMT
Slow Down – Lights
Rest of My Life – Ludacris, Usher + David Guetta
In Your Eyes – Peter Gabriel
Waiting For The End – Linkin Park
Not On Drugs – Tove Lo
Everything Changes – Take That
Kiss of Life – Friendly Fires
Let The Sun Shine – Labrinth
Flashback – Calvin Harris
Blood Pressure – MuteMath
Izzo / In The End – Linkin Park + Jay-Z
Spiritus – Lisa Mitchell
Clarity – John Mayer
A Luta Continua! – MarchFourth Marching Band
Valerie – Mark Ronson + Amy Winehouse
Last time I went on a solo adventure, I ventured into the National Gallery of Victoria to view the “A Golden Age of China” exhibit, which was absolutely magnificent. I walked around the gallery quietly, keeping my phone in my handbag so I wouldn’t be distracted or feel the need to take photographs to post on instagram. This adventure was all mine and I selfishly didn’t want to share it with anyone!
After walking through the exhibition, I went to the Tea Room and had afternoon tea. I was seated next to an elderly woman who had also ventured into town alone, and we sat there talking about the exhibits and our lives. She told me about how her husband and love of her life had passed away two years and three months ago and she kept herself busy by going to the opera and checking out exhibits at the Melbourne Museum and NGV. She was a fascinating woman – someone I never would have met had I not decided to just spend some time away from everyone I knew.
Go. Check out some touristy spots you haven’t visited in a while. Check out the national art gallery in your city. See everything with a fresh pair of eyes. Just go do something all by yourself!
I am an emotional eater, and sometimes I forget that my body is not the one wanting that large popcorn chicken meal from KFC.
Sometimes it’s my sadness or my boredom. On occasion, eating that KFC meal leaves you feeling utterly satisfied, but other times, as soon as all that food is gone, you are left with some major self-loathing for dessert.
This is not about dieting; this is not about creating a complicated relationship with food. This is about learning to understand what your body is trying to tell you. Listen – really listen – to what your body wants. If you know that you could seriously do with some deliciously decadent mudcake, go to town on that thing guilt-free! But if you’re craving a smoothie packed with fresh fruits, don’t do your body a disservice and give it the mudcake! Sometimes, spoiling your body isn’t giving it something naughty!
My friends know when I’m having an ugly day – I get overly dressed up. I wear a full face of makeup, my blingiest chandelier earrings, curl my hair and wear an outfit that is more fitting for a night out on the town than for the cafe around the corner, but I’m not going to lie… knowing I’ve put effort into how I look and having my girlfriends tell me I look nice makes me feel better about myself. My friends are my harshest critics, so when they tell me I’m looking good, I know I’m really looking good.
Put on some comfy shoes, grab your iPod and take yourself out to a park. I’m not really talking about exercise here – although we all know that exercise is a brilliant way to release endorphins to make you feel a million times better. I’m talking about just reconnecting with your body. As you walk, be completely aware of how your knees bend and your thighs and calves flex to move you forward. Focus on your hips and pelvis that help to make you walk with a great deal of fluidity. Notice your breathing! Have you ever actually had a moment where you’ve gone, “Holy shit! I am a walking, breathing, living entity! I can walk, talk, laugh… have amazing sex!”
When you think about what it takes to get your body moving, it’s practically impossible not to realise how amazing our bodies are.
Bathtub image courtesy of iconicgloryy.tumblr.com
I have been doing the online dating thing for over 10 years now, and I have learned a lot about writing profiles that attract the right kind of people. Here are my tips for creating the perfect dating profile.
If it was your funeral, how would you want to be described in your eulogy? ‘Funny’ or ‘Rib-splittingly hilarious’? ‘Brave’ or ‘badass motherfucker’? ‘Sweet’ or ‘so freaking kind I can’t even deal right now’? You don’t want to brag, but choose unique ways to describe your personality. You are trying to attract someone who could be The One. Show all the potentials how awesome you are! Choose your words carefully. Some words make a guy switch off completely.
All my dating profiles start with: “Plus-sized British-American accented Eurasian trying desperately to delay the inevitable hardship known as ‘real life’.” I think it sounds youthful, fun and mysterious.
This is a story I used: “When I was five years old my mother used to make me a glass of cold Milo to drink every morning. She told me that it would make me big and strong. So, because my pet goldfish was so tiny, I decided to tip an entire can of Milo into its tank in an attempt to make it become big and strong like me. Needless to say… my goldfish never grew – or breathed – again. RIP Goldie 1986-1986.”
It’s cute, sad, funny and quirky all at once.
I have seen so many men’s profiles that imply online dating is a bit pathetic. They even go so far as to tell you that their friend had forced them/dared them/made them a profile to try it out but they weren’t taking it seriously. WHYYYYYY? I don’t understand why anyone would ever think this was a good way to start their profile! They are dissing and dismissing it as a legitimate dating option, and are therefore dissing your choice to be on there too. So weird.
You should always sound excited at the opportunity to meet interesting people along your journey to meeting The One. I obviously haven’t met Mr Right yet, but I’ve met some incredible and amazing men – some of whom are still in my life today.
Your sob story has no place in a dating profile. No one – not even you, fellow sob storyteller – wants to read a train wreck profile by someone who describes all the horrible things that have befallen them. Yes, it’s sad. Yes, it does make you look a little pathetic. It also makes you seem like the kind of person to cry about your dead childhood cat on a first date. Awkward. You’ll be the topic of a funny facebook post and you do not want that.
Be funny and upbeat. Everyone in this world prefers to date someone with a positive outlook on life. Nothing is as sexy as a genuinely happy face staring back at you.
DO NOT BE A CATFISH, GIRLFRIEND. Besides being super weird and creepy, all you are doing is robbing yourself of the opportunity to meet someone awesome. You really think that amazing person you’re totally into but have been lying to is going to want to be with you after they find out you’re actually 20kgs heavier or 20 years older than you portrayed yourself to be? Do you really think you should be deserving of their trust after that kind of betrayal?
I know that you want to make sure you look totally glam to attract The One, but let’s face it. We probably only look glam 40% of the time. I personally think you should put at least five photos – all of which should different, with some showing you not looking your best. It’s honest and doesn’t mean you’re ugly. It just means you’re real!
You should have one good close up with you looking super glam, one plain one with you wearing little-to-no makeup, two full body shots, a group shot with your besties (make sure they’re ok with their photo being up on a dating site) and one of you doing something fun while out-and-about.
No pouty duck faces, people. I’ve asked so many men and they’ve all told me how much they hate the sexy pout. Just smile or look pensive!
Unless you’re writing a profile on AdultFriendFinder or RedHotPie, do not mention sex in your profile or you have a higher chance of attracting total sleazes instead of decent dudes. Don’t get me wrong, beautiful. There’s a good chance you’ll get dirty pics anyway because there are so many creeps on the internet who have no clue how to speak to ladies. You will get less of them, though, if you do refrain from using sexual words. Save the shmexy talk for when you’re finally comfortable with them and have chosen to meet them in real life.
This is pretty self-explanatory but you will be surprised at the amount of times I see bad spelling in a profile. If you have an issue with spelling, write your profile in Microsoft Word! It will check your spelling as you type it up! NO EXCUSES, PEOPLE! Bad spelling looks sloppy. And we are not sloppy, are we?
I love OkCupid. Their profile headings are totally unique and I think they’ve made it idiot proof.
My favourite headings are:
~ I’m really good at…
~ The first things people usually notice about me…
~ The six things I could never do without…
~ I spend a lot of time thinking about…
Even if you don’t want to use OkC’s services, I still suggest using their headings on whatever online dating service you do end up using.
And that’s it! I absolutely love critiquing my friends’ dating profiles, so if you have one you want me to look at I will totally give you my honest opinion about it!
Image courtesy bookcycle.eu and edited by myself.